So today has been a pretty crazy day. It was nice to have my mom home. I even got to sleep in for a while. Her and Don took the boys out to breakfast. I will tell you, I slept so good I actually had a good dream. NICE!
With that being said here goes the vent:
I talked to him today. (I somehow feel better doing this if I don't actually use his name. So for now he will be know as him, daddy, etc...) He actually called me quite a bit. He is using all of those typical things to threaten me. Turn off the cell phone. Shut off the computer. Drop health insurance on the kids. Well I should say that in his words he loves me and wants me to come home. I told him that was not going to happen. But if he wanted to see the kids he was more than welcome to. But no he is not going to be a weekend dad. If I leave him he will no longer have any contact with the children and I will be doing it all on my own. Fine, no big deal I have been for years. Ok. So now it's that he will never divorce me. He will hang himself from the rafters before he lets that happen. I am a little concerned about that. I'm not sure I wouldn't put it past him. So I am actually alot concerned about that. I am worried that he may try to take his own life.
But I can't make it allow me to feel that I have made a mistake. I am strong. I can do this. And it is for the best!
I have to go and make Kool-Aid for the boys now.
Julia, good for you standing your ground and not giving in to him. I cannot believe that he does not want to have anything to do with the boys if you don't go home. What kind of "bleep" is he?? My God, if this doesn't prove to you that you are doing the right thing then I don't know what would. As difficult as it may seem right now, it may actually be for the best in the long run.
ReplyDeleteAs far as him not divorcing you, not signing the papers, do not worry about that. Your lawyer should be able to outline all the details in the event that he is not cooperative. My ex wasn't going to sign our papers and wasn't going to show up to court (When it came right down to it, he did). My lawyer had told me there are ways around that.
He is going to say whatever he can to get you to come home. Do NOT buy into it. It is a crock of "bleep"!!
Julia, you are doing a great job staying strong. I am glad that you have your mom and that she is being so supportive.
Ugh...dropping the kids health insurance?? He's a douche bag. And I am so proud of you for standing on your own to feet. I'd probably send him the rope. But, well, you know how I can get. ;)
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