I decided to start this blog to help me through the process of Divorce with 2 small children. I was married for 7 years. My children are young 2 and 4 and a half. It has been a really difficult situation for us. We had to leave the only home my children knew and the home that I have lived in since I was 4. We have moved in with my mom and her husband. The boys love it here, but I feel like I have left my intire life behind.
I will not go into the details of why we split up at this time. But throughout this process I'm sure I will fill in the blanks.
We have been gone for 4 days now. The one thing that surprises me the most is that I'm not as sad as I thought I would be. I guess that means I was expecting this to come for some time. I do cry when one of my boys asks me about dad or going home. I have not heard from their dad since Monday. I am trying not to be surprised. I would like to hear from him to make sure he's OK, but I know that may not be possible. So I sit here wondering what is going on with him.
I am also creating this blog for my friends and family to keep track of what is happening in this very difficult process. So if you have been invited to view this you are important to me and I want to keep you updated on what is happening. I will up date in the morning and the evening or when ever I feel I have something to add. If you would like to respond that would be great. I am very new to this and it will take me a little while to figure out how this whole thing works. But I know it will help me, so thank you for reading.
Julia: you are brave and strong and I am so proud of yourself for taking this first step to make a better future for you and your boys. Believe me, I know how very difficult it is to be on your own with young children, but when you really think about it, you've been a single parent since Leo was born!
ReplyDeleteI know too how difficult it is to let go of a dream that you once shared, but that never worked out and instead, became a nightmare. This is not the way you want your boys to grow up and you deserve more yourself.
You are very lucky that your family is so supportive. Your mom got me through a lot of hard days when I was going through what you are going through. Don't be shy about asking for help from your friends and family who love you.
Each day will be less chaotic than the past years you have lived. You have been abused and you do not deserve that, no matter how many times you may have yelled or whatever in frustration.
I know too that there will be days when your hope rekindles and you wonder if you could have done something different, or should go back, but trust me, that hope is just an illusion and to go backwards would be devastating for you and the boys.
So hang in there and take it one day at a time!
Love you,
Aunt Ann
We're all here for you Julia. You can get through this. I know you can.
ReplyDeleteJulia, you ARE doing it! This blog may be a really good thing for you. A safe place to be able to get your feelings and thoughts out. A place to go back to and reread the things you have wrote when you are in doubt.
ReplyDeleteYou have taken a huge step. One that you thought would be impossible to do. You CAN do this and you ARE! I am so proud of you and your strength. You have a tough road ahead of you. Please do not forget that you have so many friends that are supporting you and are here for you.
Great blog. Thank you so much for keeping us updated. We are here for you.
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